New Years is always a time I love. Sure it's just another day, but it symbolizes so much more. It's a time for people to get quiet with themselves and look at their lives. What do I want to change? What do I LOVE about my life? This year instead of adding a bunch of things to my life (i.e "I want to work out 3 times a week.") I want to remove the negative. So I asked myself...what are the things in my life I can give up to make me a happier and more fulfilled woman?
I found 5 not so nice habits I want to give up that I will share with you.
1. Stop calling myself fat- I have a defense mechanism my friends have pointed out that really doesn't serve me well. I make jokes about my weight, thinking if I make fun of it then you won't have to make fun of it. This year I want to give this up and stop calling myself fat as a means to "protect" myself somehow.
2. Stop being late because I am too obsessed with what my makeup looks like- I have a tendency to spend an hr + doing my makeup, if I fail to account for this time I am late meeting friends etc. This year I want to commit to not being late for memories and moments because I am too insecure or obsessed with makeup to not leave the house without blush on. Time is really the most precious gift of all, so I need to commit my time to the people I love and show up for it!
3. Stop expressing every insecurity to my partner- If you haven't gathered from the previous 2 resolutions I am a fairly insecure person at times. I also can have word vomit and every fear, anxiety or feeling I feel I express to my partner. Of course sharing our feelings is an important part of a relationship but coping with feelings as an adult is equally important. This year I really want to commit to not word vomiting my fears and feelings to Chris. I suspect this will result in more laughter and love in our relationship (even though there is plenty of it already, who can't use more). He can't cure my fears or take away my worries so expecting him to do such is setting him and I up for failure as a couple.
4. Stop comparing myself to everyone else- This one is so deeply engrained it may be harder to actually do than it sounds, but I am putting the intention out to the universe that this year I want to stop comparing. I constantly am looking outside of myself at what others have and where I "should" be. I see other women my age living a different life than I do, owning homes, buying new cars, having a 2nd or 3rd child and I can begin to think I am not "doing enough". I start to feel less than, comparing myself to others outsides (aka what they show the world, not necessarily how they really feel) does nothing for me as a person. This year I want to give up my addiction to comparison and just embrace and love the life I have chosen to create for myself.
5. Stop beating myself up for being human- I am human, the person behind this computer bleeds, cries and laughs like every other human in the world. Additionally I stumble, fall and at times don't live up to my own expectations. I can be so hard on myself I hurt this human by tearing her down. This year I want to accept those flaws without judgement. Judgement is the opposite of acceptance and when I am living in judgement I am not accepting what is. This year I want to allow myself the space to sometimes not be perfect. I snap at my partner when I don't want to, I forget stuff, I lock my keys in my car and I am not infallible. To stop beating myself up would be the greatest gift to give myself because it would allow me the opportunity to take risks without fear of failure.
I don't know if others can relate to these but certainly as I look inside myself these would be the pieces of my habits that do me the most harm. If you were to remove some habits from yourself of the next year, what would they be?
