Being a Bride to Be

Seriously, I never thought I would get the future I wanted. I just didn't think it was in the cards for me after several failed and miserable relationships and two years of "dating" weirdos and losers I was convinced I would live my life alone with cats. So to be a bride to be and excited to spend my life with someone who wants the same thing with me is probably the greatest feeling in the world.

I've already begun scrolling through Pinterest collecting ideas, but our wedding is 2 years away. You might be wondering why we are waiting so long; my fiancé is in school and I really want us to both be able to enjoy being engaged and not stress about time and money. The easiest solution to that is to wait.

Our date as of now is October 15, 2016

So I've been trying to figure out what exactly I can plan now and how I can remain excited without getting complacent. 

1. I'm going to ask my bridal party soon- I have the CUTEST idea to ask them and will share it once it's all complete. The girls I'm asking have either been friends for like ever or are family. Pretty safe bets to invite to be a part of the wedding. 

I would definitely suggest if you don't have lifelong friends or family you're planning on inviting, hold off on asking. Having to uninvite a bridesmaid would be pretty painful. 

2. Looking at venues- I don't think you can ever be too prepared for where you want your wedding. Some venues book up fast as well, so make sure while looking you ask questions about that and cancellation policies as a just in case. 😁

So I guess that's it for right now, I'm trying to stay excited and be prepared. I'll keep y'all posted.

Married? Engaged? What are your suggestions?!

Do Fairytales exist?

**This is a repost from my previous blog which is no longer live**

 

I love romantic comedies, let's face it I am a girl who grew up on Disney, the idea of meeting the "one" has always been somewhere in my mind. As a culture we are completely obsessed with love. Songs, books and movies galore all focused on the same topic, yet somewhere along the way we've been led astray.

Through dating nightmares and relationships blowing up in my face I've come to learn a few things about that "happily ever after" thing. I want to use this series to share what I have learned and also share my mistakes and mishaps as they occur. I just moved to North Carolina, I am single and in my mid-20's, I feel the pressure to meet the "one" but I am beginning to wonder what that even means. I've seen women with checklists that won't date anyone unless they meet a certain criteria. Is that the trick to finding the one? Is dating like shopping for a car, should dating be a business transaction?

I am convinced the idea of the "one" has actually kept many women stuck in a cycle of constantly searching for more. I don't believe anyone will ever be "perfect" for me as perfect doesn't exist. I think this is the trap so many of us experience while searching for this mythological "one"... we are constantly looking for the next shiny object to come our way. This trap actually stops us from forming lasting relationships with people because we cannot remain present while wondering what else is out there.

If there is "one" what is the likelihood any of us will actually meet him or her? If we do settle for someone who isn't the "one" what happens if or when we meet that person? Do we just walk away from a life we started building with someone else? Looking for the one keeps us trapped in tiny boxes that actually limits the dating field for us.

How do you get beyond this? For starters don't say no to a date, just try something new. Go out, be in the moment, have fun! If you aren't compatible you don't have to see each other again but hell you get a great story and a night out! Second piece of advice: forget all you know of fairy tales... don't over analyze and just enjoy.

“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”~ Oscar Wilde