I love romantic comedies, let's face it I am a girl who grew up on Disney, the idea of meeting the "one" has always been somewhere in my mind. As a culture we are completely obsessed with love. Songs, books and movies galore all focused on the same topic, yet somewhere along the way we've been led astray.
Through dating nightmares and relationships blowing up in my face I've come to learn a few things about that "happily ever after" thing. I want to use this series to share what I have learned and also share my mistakes and mishaps as they occur. I just moved to North Carolina, I am single and in my mid-20's, I feel the pressure to meet the "one" but I am beginning to wonder what that even means. I've seen women with checklists that won't date anyone unless they meet a certain criteria. Is that the trick to finding the one? Is dating like shopping for a car, should dating be a business transaction?
I am convinced the idea of the "one" has actually kept many women stuck in a cycle of constantly searching for more. I don't believe anyone will ever be "perfect" for me as perfect doesn't exist. I think this is the trap so many of us experience while searching for this mythological "one"... we are constantly looking for the next shiny object to come our way. This trap actually stops us from forming lasting relationships with people because we cannot remain present while wondering what else is out there.
If there is "one" what is the likelihood any of us will actually meet him or her? If we do settle for someone who isn't the "one" what happens if or when we meet that person? Do we just walk away from a life we started building with someone else? Looking for the one keeps us trapped in tiny boxes that actually limits the dating field for us.
How do you get beyond this? For starters don't say no to a date, just try something new. Go out, be in the moment, have fun! If you aren't compatible you don't have to see each other again but hell you get a great story and a night out! Second piece of advice: forget all you know of fairy tales... don't over analyze and just enjoy.
“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”~ Oscar Wilde
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